Life is about experiencing new things

I just watched the movie, The life of Benjamin Button, featuring Brad Pitt and remembered that life is about experiencing new things and not taking the people in it for granted. I thank God everyday for what he has blessed me with and the lessons I have learnt and have yet to learn.

Experiencing new things, is what I love about life. I make a point of doing this at least once or twice a month if not more from eating at a new restaurant, to going to go watch a show at the artsacape to trying a new club to party at, to helping out at a charity.

In my life so far and where I am at, I want to make sure that if I had to look back, I wouldn’t hear myself saying what if but why not! Brad Pitt or Benjamin Button character says in a letter to his daughter for her to live a full life and don’t be afraid of change, it is never too late. So please go out and try some sushi or take that trip in July to travel or spend it doing a missionary mission in Mozambique.

What ever it is just make sure you will look back one day and smile! 

Poor idea to lie to yourself

This topic is sooo me! I have done this since I was 13 years old, when I refused to listen to people and wore an outfit that looked hideous and I lied to myself saying that I looked great (when instead I knew I was just wearing my favourite items in my wardrobe and didn’t care if they matched) eeew makes me cringe thinking about it.

I also think it is a poor idea to lie to yourself when you tell yourself just one more slice of that cake wont hurt- indulge by all means but remember the line.

Another time in my life that comes to mind that was a really poor idea was when I stayed in a not so great relationship. It was a safety zone and lying to myself kept me there.  So how do you know when you are lying to yourself, is when you hear your gut and subconscious voice telling you so and you ignore it.

So my advice is learn from your mistakes or try and don’t forget the lessons learnt whether from a bad outfit choice to that guy you thinking of staying in a relationship with. Life is too short to spend it in a ‘lie’ or lying to yourself.

Seasons of the Earth

As I lay in my bed eyes wide open, 01:00 am to be exact. The wind was creating its own music outside and my heart and spirit found it so soothing and comforting to listen to. I than realized how all four seasons of the earth minister to us! Yes all four seasons have a place in our lives. Summer; Winter; Autumn and Spring. These seasons were all created by God for His divine purpose, which is not only physical but has a spiritual manifestation! The wind, rain, sun are a sign and give an indication as to what God is doing and where is He taking us to.

Even though there might be drought in Summer, the leaves may fall in Autumn and storms in Winter! All of these seasons are needed as a process or procedure we have to go through so that we can enter into and be ready for Spring, where flowers are bright and coloured and are ready to open up to the rays of sunlight. God will surely put us in these seasons to teach us, inspire us and develop our character, so that He is able to bless us and for us to be a blessing to others. As we enter each new season, we enter in hope and expectancy knowing and believing God’s presence is always there.

I love how David describes this. “I saw the Lord always before me, because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken. Therefore my heart is glad and my tongue rejoices, my body will also live in hope.” (Acts2: 25-26). As all four seasons are Heaven sent, we should not be afraid to face each one, but instead we should trust, be confident in and rely upon GOD to see us through each one….That is when we will gain victory!

The sound of one hand clapping!!

The sound of one hand clapping is change. When something happens no matter how insignificant it is the universe changes in some way.
Think about any small thing that you do and  how if affects everyone else.
A simple greeting can change someone's whole day, there by affecting everyone around you. It means one has to be confident in his or her own.  doing that can rub on everyone else and eventually new things will fall into place slowly changing one thoughts. Or action at a time,
Changing everything and everyone around you.
From there it's just the domino effect,
One by one changing the universe.
So now I'll ask you,
"What's the sound of one hand clapping,
Change."

A skill set called leadership

I believe this is a very important skill, as BTech student I am learning about what manager role entails and its function within an organisation. As we come to an end of this year, many lecturers are now bringing in what the purpose of what we learnt this year was, from learning about people, cultures, female vs. male race and understanding them. The function of monitoring the media and how to go about filtering through research and endless literature reviews. This all ties in to function of a manager with out all the above mentioned aspects one cannot be one.

It is important not only in industry but in my own life to be a leader- without short and long-term goals one cannot have vision and work towards something, whether it be from job to getting own car. The greatest example of a leader to me is Nelson Mandela. This being that he was a leader for the people, he applied himself fully to what he believed in from way he spoke to people to decision he made in country’s affairs. One can see this through the movie invictus to know what I’m talking about.

Not all who wander are lost.

Not all who wonder are lost

Which road suits you best, which road is more desirable, satisfactory for you? There are two kinds of roads. The first road is wider and the second road which is narrow. The wider road looks beautiful and when you walk on its ground it is soft, with no rocky patches making it difficult for you to stumble and fall upon. The narrow road, when you look at it for the first time, it is not desirable and does not smell attractive, it is not smooth at all, it is full of rocky patches and thorns, that will cause you to say ouch! God knows how many times. If you were ever to be given the opportunity which road would you wonder upon and not get lost?

You are not alone...

You are not forsaken

Have you ever heard of this song, “Be my love when the fire is low, when the fire is low, when the fire is low, when the fire is low”? This song is sung by the South African group Freshly Ground.
We were created to be human beings that desire relationships, to be loved, to always feel the secure warmth of another person. Look at a six month year old baby that cries, if you leave that babe unattended to it will cry and cry and only stop crying until you put it in your arms.

The world that we live in, this earth is ever changing; the climate change, the economy goes into recession and comes out of recession, there’s always something new in the fashion industry and our relationships are ever changing as well. It is not a solid ground to stand on; because one is never sure of what kind ground it will be the following hour.
We are rejected, put to shame or disappointed by this world.

“I will never leave you nor forsake you”, Hebrews 5:5, this quotation is taken from the Holy Bible. It is a promise made to us by God for His people. In all things, in our lives whether it might be sweet and the next day becomes sour. Where we will find ourselves to be in a roller coaster ride of an ever changing world, there is one source that we can trust and rely upon, a source that remains solid, a source that is unchanging.

“In the beginning (before all time) was the Word (Christ) and Christ was with God and the Word was God. All things were made and came into existence through Him and without Him, was not even one thing made that has come into being.” John1:1-3.
God is an unchanging source of hope, an unending satisfaction of joy. Whatever height your wave might be, let God the be the boat that will see you into a solid ground. Take courage, believe and trust in His promise when He says: “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

How do you step from the top of a 100-foot pole?

For me Stepping off a 100-feet pole means to take a risk. This is when you have been pondering about doing something, procrastinating, thinking and deciding and rethinking your options. Stepping off the 100-feet pole means that you finally say GO! to yourself. You do not know the outcome and you might fail and hit the ground hard, but you take that step with courage in your heart.

It also means starting over – you have reached that top position in your company and then you get retrenched or you make a drastic career change. Or you finished your BTech degree in Public Relations and then you start studying in another industry all over again. You literally need to start climbing from the pavement again, step by step.

But at this moment in time, it has a specific meaning to my life. Climbing up the pole means counting down the days and waiting in anticipation until someone returns to you. When they return, you have reached the top of the pole and you stay there for as long as you can – viewing the world like never seen before, holding on to each moment of togetherness. Stepping off that 100-feet pole (for me) was to say goodbye and hitting the bottom ground along with the departure.

How do you step off that 100-feet pole and survive the fall? You get right up and start climbing all over again. Just like song says:

“I get knocked down

But I get up again

You’re never gonna keep me down”

I’m glad to announce that I am climbing again! Up… up… up… up…

I’m on my second step (day) up the pole of return and counting down the days untill I need to take that leap again. What pole are you climbing? Or are you standing at the top… pondering… trembling…

About Me

 

This is usually very tricky for me whem someone ask who am i. To keep it simple, i think of myself as a laidback, sweet, honest and a loving person. I love people seeing them happy and making them happy makes me happy and humbles me. Some of my friends think i am stubborn, opinionated and proud lol. I have seen a lot through the journey of life and i continue to learn. I'm not perfect and i do not live to be nor will i pretend to be someone i'm not. I do not like to be around people who are always negetive. I am a motivated and determined person.
My social views are conservative, my political views are liberal. I chose to study PR 5 years ago because i loved the communication side of it, and i was interested in marketing and advertising. That is basically where i would like to see myself doing. I am a strong believer in Christ who infuses the strength in me.

We are what we do... Are we?

I have seen many people being labeled by what they are or what they have done. If someone had raped he will forever be called "the one who raped" People hold grudges, it is hard for them to let the past be. How can some be motivated to change his/her ways if people cannot motivate him/her. Even when it is clearly written in the bible that "it is not for us to judge" but we do gudge each other. There are criminals who can change their ways if only there were people who tell them that they are not what they do. Because they are called and labelled by what they do they really think that it who they are or what they were meant to be in life. Let us stop labelling people by the wrong things they do it is not for us to judge!!

A letter to ME!!

Don't Worry I'm Fine:

Thanks for Asking

Dear Nomnqweno,

      You need this because right now, no one else will. You've worked so hard throughout your life, and all of the hard work will pay off. You're gonna be stronger as a person and more apt at dealing with things. Remember that just because nobody tells you doesn't mean you're not beautiful. Whenever you feel ugly, remember the feeling you get when the sun shines brightly on your face. It's okay to feel needy sometimes. It's okay to want more than what you have. It's okay to want to hear that you're beautiful, just know that when it doesn't come, you're still beautiful anyway. It's okay to want someone to hold the door open and let you in first and it's okay to want someone to open the car door for you. Just know that when they don't, you can do it yourself-- you're perfectly capable. It's okay that you want nothing more than for someone to tell you that the sound of your voice, your smile. or even just your prescence brightens their day. And when they don't, remember the feeling you get when you look into your own eyes-- it's all you baby. Don't expect anyone to look into your eyes and plan their future with you in it. Nomnqweno, when you feel like you're being judged, remember the feeling you get looking out at the ocean and realizing that there's a whole world out there. It's okay to want someone to tell you that they want to be with you forever, spend evey single night with you for the rest of time. When they don't, remember that only you can promise yourself forever and that the future must only be written in pencil-- you never know what tomorrow may bring. When you're lying there in his arms, wondering whether or not you really deserve so much more than your small, little world has to offer, remember that it's okay to cry.

                                                            Love always and forever
                            Nomnqweno...

We are afraid of the wrong things

How often we must bear the challenges of life; The endless roller coaster between happiness and sorrow; The constant ups and downs of daily strife. And always the question remains .... why? Life is not an easy road for most; It twists and turns with many forks in the road, Although always, and inevitably, we are given a choice ... Do we turn to the right ... or the left? Do we take the high road ... or the low road? Do we take the easy path ... or the difficult one? Decisions are not easy for those struggling for direction ... And sometimes the many choices and signs become overwhelming. While standing at a crossroads in life, The urge is to take the most comfortable path; The road with least resistance ... The shortest or most traveled route. And yet, if we've been down that comfortable road before; Have gleaned its lessons in life, and learned from our experiences; Do we yet again follow the known? Or does our destiny lie in another direction? The fear of the road less traveled is tangible and all too real; It manifests itself in many ways, And tends to cloud the issues that might otherwise be clear. It is in these times of confusion, That we must seek peace and solitude; Time to contemplate on our life, Our experiences and our choices past; Time to look back, and reflect on what we have learned Without fear or confusion. For only each of us knows our own personal thoughts; Our unique past and personal history; The experiences that brought us to the crossroads we now face. We can always learn a small degree from others experiences, And yet ... no one person can walk in our shoes, Others know not, the trials and tribulations faced in private ... For each is individual ... unique ... and personal. And that is why ... while standing at a crossroads, Only "we" can formulate the decision for ourselves; The true direction that lies within; The choices we must deliberate on with clarity and wisdom. For it is only through personal reflection, That we can now choose our destiny; ... Our next adventure; ... And the future we will embrace.

Fish falling from the sky

This sounds wierd how can fish from the sky?
I look at it in a different pespective, there is another ocean that we tend to forget about which is the
The sky

The sky is a suspended blue ocean.
The stars are the fish
They  swim.

The planets are the white whales
I sometimes hitch a ride on,

And the sun and all light
Have forever fused themselves

Into my heart and upon
My skin.

There is only one rule
On this Wild Playground,

For every sign of it reads the same.

They all say, "have fun, my dear; my dear, have fun,
In the beatiful creation game,


A wonderful
Game."

Time spent with family

Spending time with my family feels like floating
on peace and loving sea of clouds.
We have an electric storm that come through
lighting up the sky give us the water of life.
I feels safe and warm centered in my heart.
When  i spend a loving peaceful time with family.
Gone of the worried and the panic of the old world.
My main part of my day is sending love to mother earth and
Sending healing for all whom need this in the world.
I live with in a heart light and fulled with love.
Grace is flowing throughout the world just open your
hearts and live and drink the pure grace that is coming to us.

What is the color of the wind

In a world i live in that is full of blue and grey very different from when i was still a child, when i used to chase butterflies in a green grass. What a bright color they would make. The summer time where everything is bright, the grass greener and the rainbow after that summer rain. Sometimes i do need a touch of those colors to make me feel alive and fresh, something that will provide that missing piece inside me. I bring to you the colors of the wind



Ii sometimes feel as if my mood changes with them, happiness and lots of fun, sunshine my favorite color, floats, warmth and the feel of sun, feel of rain  i like this one. These are my colors of the wind. I am sure we have all seen them in the sky.

And i hope all your days have a bright glow do you know why? Because sunshine has a healing effect. I want to feel good and have a good effect, grey skies have a downing effect. I want nothing to darken my mood and affect...

If i were the boss..

I have never worked in my life and it already feels wierd to me the fact that bosses are so distant from their workers. The fact that bosses look down on their workers and they under pay them. I hate that bosses do not take into consideration other people's abilities capabilities. If i would own a company or manage people i would not be a boss rather a leader for a leader knows other's intelligence and takes it into consideration. A leader is a psychologist because he/she would know each of the workers. I would be an inspiration someone people would look up to. I would be a disciplinarian and sometimes a friend. I would be an organiser and a check upper. I would be a kind of boss people would not be afraid of. I would not look down on them like most so called "bosses" do. The kind of a boss who will not be jelous when one of his workers progresses instead be a motivation and a mentor. Because being a boss is often associated with power i read something interesting that goes: "knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom; mastering others is strenghth; mastering yourself is true power."

Two people came out of a building into a story

Sipho was young man from Mthatha, a first born to his parents who were so proud of having a son who was going to bring them "umakoti" a daughter in law and they could not wait to see their first grandchild. Sipho was a laid back, very respecting young man. People he grew up with knew he was only happy when Bongani his best friend was around. He didi not do all the things that other young man his age were doing, things like standing in a corner smoking and chasing after girls. Sipho was always at home either helping around the home or just chatting with his sisters. One day his father called him by the kraal and said " Sipho my son your mother has been doing all the work around this home all by her self and we are not getting any younger, we would like before we die to at least see our grandchild. You should take a wife." Sipho was very nervous he always knew that the day would come but not this soon he thought. His father told him that everything has been taken care of he should just bring the wife home. During supper time Sipho was quiet at the table, so many things were running through his mind, when he finished he rushed to his hut and lied on his bed.

He thought about lot of things his family, friends the village what would they say if they knew what was on his mind right now? but he not going to sacrifice his happiness because of them. He went ot his friends place to tell him what his father had said to him. In the morning he came out of his hut very happy nad told his father that he bought the love of his life home. His father was more than happy. He called everybody, the uncles neibours and friends for his only son was getting married. His mother prepared the traditional attire for the bride and it was time for the bride to be taken out of the hut. Every body gathered around the hut ululating and chanting traditional songs. Sipho went in his hut to take his bride and he came holding Bongani's hand out of the building into a story!!

Designer PR

I do not know what designer pr is but i can see that we are living in a world where digital technology is rapidly taking over our lives. It is all over that in ten years time we will not be using papers or books anymore. It is a challenge for us Public Relations Practitioners.

Trials...

You know, I sure don´t like to go through difficult times.

It is hard, it hurts, it is confusing, it challenges my faith and if hard enough, even my beliefs. It makes me feel bad and get sick of myself when I fail.

But it also makes me spend more time on my knees, praying, seeking the Lord. It makes me realize once again that I can´t make it on my own, that I MUST learn to trust in Him. It teaches me about God, His love and His wisdom. It makes me see Him in everything, His hand orquestrating every situation to give me His will.

I don´t like trials, but I sure can see why I need them. God is molding me in His hands, making me the christian He wants me to be, for His honor, glory and for His use. That I may be the vessel He wants me to be.

Things are lighting up and I am excited. What is God doing in your life? What trials is He using to make you what He wants you to be?

I am....

I am Nomnqweno Msenge born in Cape Town but had the opportunity of being raised in both Cape Town and in Eastern Cape. Having been in both these different provinces has taught me a lot about balancing my life culturally and socially. It has made me realise that i am more than just my identity. Being bought up in Khayelitsha and in rural areas does not make me any less of a person, i can and will be what i want to be in life. I am a determined young woman, very proud of where i come from for it has made the person i am today. I have met many people through the journey of life who are so embarrased  to stand up in a crowd of people and just say who they are and where they come from because they are ashamed and they see their identities as bad as compared to those of their friends. Do we really have to be identified by our backgrounds? Do we have to be judged because we do not come from a certain place or side of life? Not, thought so too. You cannot chooose your family that is a fact. Life is more than that. We are all the same and equal in the eyes of God let us learn to love and appreciate one another and accept each other's differences. We are more than just our identities. "Treasure the little that you have, work on it be happy and appreciate life"